Bikram Dasgupta Blog


Understanding people you Care

July 06, 2020

Life takes several turns and twists every now and then.Do we give enough attention to each of those changes? Do we listen to all the inputs,we get from our near and dear ones,and act on it ?Or,do we brush it aside,not knowing,how important that feedback is,for the person giving us that feedback ? Life becomes lot more easier when we "listen" to our near and dear ones.Once we do,understanding people who matter to us,atleast becomes easier,and thereby our data within our own system,is able to take better decisions.I have realised throughout my life,smallest of things have happened,because perhaps,we did not give the required attention,that information demanded,or the person who is giving you that information,to him/her it is very important. From understanding,you build love n care.Being sensitive to some people you care for,or,you think you care for,is quite critical,to him/her.That itself solves or bridges a lot of gaps between close people.

You cannot "control " "Love",either way.How can you "control" and "love" at the same time,the same person ? Its a non starter.The very essence of being in love, is, you don't control the person you love.Only then the Love blossoms.But more often than not, we try to exercise control,thru our emotional bondings with the person.It might also work for a while,but it doesn't last .Thus the basic objective is lost. That creates a psychological gap between the two,and lasts for ever,if not mended. This is sad,but true. So,the right,precise,direct, communication between 2 people,who care and love each other,is a must,to reduce gaps between them.There are therapeutic solutions available.We take them,when this reaches crescendo, but perhaps then it is late.

With the advent of Covid-19 today, these kind of Psycho-therapeutic gaps can come up between 2 close people,related people,close friends, etc.,we need to be conscious about them,to work on.

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